I'm A Tomboy, And No One Wants To Date Me

Published on Dec 1, 2018
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This is Jo. Actually, her name is Josephine, but you wouldn’t be able to imagine a person less suitable to be called Josephine. She’s a tomboy, and she’s proud of it. However, life as a tomboy is not as amusing as you might imagine. She’s faced a lot of problems, and she wants to tell you about them.
Jo had trouble communicating with other girls right from her early childhood. She remembers one time when a large group of children had gathered in one place for a party or something, and her mom gently pushed her towards the other girls and said, “go play with the dolls, make friends with someone!” She diligently started moving dolls here and there and listening to boring talk about girly problems, but all the while she kept looking at the boys, who were playing something thrilling, laughing and doing their boyish stuff. She was so envious that at some point she just silently stood up and joined them. That was the moment when the fun started for her.
Things didn’t improve as the years went by. Jo was always attracted to the world of boys, and all of her friends were boys as well. She felt at ease when she talked to them, and felt that she understood their problems and their way of thinking better. Whereas when she was around girls, she was totally clueless. Their problems were hard for her to follow, especially when they complained about boys.
Jo had to adapt her looks to her lifestyle as well. When she went out with her friends, they always did something active, like skateboarding or exploring abandoned buildings or climbing trees. For these kinds of things, you need to dress in a practical way. She found out that jeans and hoodies are much more comfortable in this respect than typical girls’ clothes, which she had always hated in any case. And that is how she has dressed her whole life. For Jo, it was always a tragedy when they made some formal visit and she needed to dress “properly”, as people would call it. A cute dress, shiny shoes, a neat hairdo… ugh. As you can probably imagine, phrases like “wear skirts, be more feminine, you’re a girl” were the things she kept hearing time and again, until at one point her parents just gave up.
It wasn’t that Jo felt she was ugly or anything, and that being a tomboy was her way of gaining confidence. She actually thinks she’s quite cute, and when she’s forced to be a girly girl she looks no worse than her peers. For her, being a tomboy is a lifestyle, and she’s happy with that. The problem was that some time ago, she’d noticed that her friends had started dating.
One of the things that people were often mistaken about was the belief that because Jo was a tomboy, she must be gay. But she’s actually attracted to boys, not girls. Ironically, she actually gets a lot of backtalking from girls who say that she’s just trying to get attention from all the boys around her. She’s never taken this seriously, because she’s never had THAT kind of attention from the boys. Which is actually the core of her problem.
Yes, she’s seeking her first romance. She has lots of boys around her. So what’s the problem, you might ask. The problem is that they don’t really see her as a girl! They know she’s a girl, of course, but they don’t want to date her, because who would date a bro? Once, there was a boy she liked, and she thought it would be wise to approach him and ask if he wanted to go out with her. And guess what - he just laughed at her! He wasn’t mean or anything, it was more something like “Sorry bro, I don’t see you as a GIRL”. Seeing the look on her face, he corrected himself: “I mean, THAT kind of a girl”. Oh thanks, now that’s much better!
This was the first time when being a tomboy had a negative effect on her life. She even tried to put on make up and a dress, but felt really weird and the boys just looked at her strange as well. She gave up and lost hope. It seemed like it was a price that she had to pay to keep the comfortable and amusing life of a tomboy. She became a bit melancholic looking at all those happy couples, and felt that something was missing from her life for the first time.
One day she was invited out to go skateboarding, but she wasn’t in the mood so she just sat there, watching her friends and thinking her sad thoughts. One of her oldest friends soon came over to sit with her and asked why she was so sad. She didn’t want to lie, so she explained everything as it really was - that no one wanted to date her because no one considered her a potential girlfriend. “Don’t cry”, he said, “I’ll go on a date with you!” She refused out self-respect. “I don’t need charity”, she said. Suddenly, he became very serious and said that he really wanted to. And so she accepted. Accidentally, she had made the same mistake all her friends had made with her - she hadn’t considered his feelings, because you don’t go on dates with buddies. Well, she was mistaken.
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    • ACTUALLY HAPPENED these days everybody thinks that if your a boy and you hang out with girls and if you’re a girl and you hang out with boys everybody thinks ur gay and I’m like ok stop but to be honest a lot of these people actually are gay but still stop assuming and generalizing

    • ACTUALLY HAPPENED Listen, Joan. You should not be worried about changing your tomboy habits. You are a great person and this story has been very inspirational. You see, I’m gay and I hang out with boys. So, it’s kinda difficult for me to find love. No offence, but I don’t like girls in any way. I don’t see myself as a boy in a relationship. I see myself as a girl. So, yeah. I guess I can relate. This video was very inspiring and I hope you have a wonderful, fulfilling love life. God bless you. - John (or Jeanette)

    • Hi

    • Mee too

    • ACTUALLY HAPPENED U rock

  • UGHHHHHHH I hate dresses too and I can totally relate with the whole “ you need to be girly so wear dresses” and I hate that ugh And I’m a Lil overweight by a pound so that also doesn’t help me bc when I need to wear “girly” clothes I feel like a walrus trying to win a beauty passion

  • My favorite type of girls are tomboys

  • I m confused about myself coz I'm not a girly girl and I don't like girly things and I like to dress like boys but m not interested in girls 😭I don't know I m confuse and I have no one in my life with whom I can shar how I feel inside 😭

  • I'm a tomboy and i'm happy and it's fun.

  • I'm tomboy and I don't want to date lol. I understand your problem. I am often confused for boy ,I hate everything girly and my parents are against my style of clothing (hoodies and jeans) and yep. I have much more problems but dating isn't one of them. I'm not interested.

  • I'm quit young still but,I'm mostly friends with boys,dress like boys,but,none of the boys like me.... idk why I think it's the way I act

  • WHA-WHAT!? no one wants to date you? You should be proud cuz ur a tomboy and dont like boys that will date u as if

  • If a were a guy I’d date you cause I understand you... I’m a tomboy and have many guy friends I play b-ball a lot! And me and my crush like each other! But too young to date

  • Agi or tomboy

  • I am a tomboy.

  • I'm a girly girl and 22, no guy wants to date me.

  • Im a loser

  • It hurts how much I can relate IYFUYOUYF

  • I' m Tom Jones

  • It seems that straight tomboys are rare, so they should stay alive.

  • *there's two types of tomboy. Tomboy date man or tomboy date woman*

  • you sound like a boy though

  • "no one wants to date me" LMAO at the end she's going out with someone meanwhile I am 18 and still single 😂😂😂

  • Same as me lol

  • i think everyone deserves more respect tbh well i think people should be like jokingley more open minded to jokes tbh and not take everything to heart *COUGH* *COUGH* Americans sorry i had something in my throat.

  • Don't worry about it. I like tomboys or at least, girls who don't like or do girly stuff (For some reason, though, because I'm a male). And that's cool.

  • This girl is funny. This girl is mood. I like this girl.

  • This is my life in a nutshell

  • Yeah!so true!

  • Check out Queen cat 😸

  • Check out Queen cat 😺

  • Sweatpants and t-shirts are my thing. I am a proud, weird tomboy😆

  • My problem is That my mom always make me where pink...

  • I CAN RELATE

  • Ngl boys are so chill that’s why I mostly have friends that are boys

  • I love too have a friend who they are tomboy i love it they are fun, and i love to speak and joking with a boy, and i prefer character male, it can be that i'm both girly and tomboy both? Because i don't love to put skirt and i love to go around with black lipstick :), but i'm not a lesbian and i don't have to have nothing countrary about Lesbian or gay i love to have the different friends, not all same ;)

  • In my school Nobody dates so shut up

  • I am a tomboy

  • i used to be a tomboy too.but i have changed.not because of others but because im now more interested in girly things

  • Pssh lol

  • MY NAME IS JOSEPHINE EEEEEE😀😀😀😀😀😀😵

  • I am a tomboy duh

  • ❤Økiê❤

  • I'm a tomboy too, but neither the girls or the boys hang out with me lol

  • I hate dresses and skirts and always wear hoodies. People usually think I’m a tomboy but I’m not _~_

  • When I first saw you I thought I saw an beautiful angel👰

  • This is kind of relatable. I feel like no one accepts me because I’m non-binary 😓 I’ll shut up now

  • I feel like I'm most relatable to this story because most of my driends are guys, I think girly problems are to dramatic, and I hate having to wear a... *dress*

  • This is the same as me. :( no girl is my friend

  • Single forever is more good 👍

  • Ugh boys , everytime I get a new boy friend they threat me like a bro and I hate that is like you treat every girl the same way you do to me or you treat me like you do with every other girl , I'm not different just because I wear boys clothes and i have short hair

  • I dress 100% like a tomboy but im a girly girl 😂

  • I love pink and girls stuff to and I'm a boy love your self 💄💄💄💄💄💄💎🦄💎😻👑👑💗💖💓

  • Im tooooo flexible

  • even I am a tom boy I am proud of it

  • ME ME ME ME ME ME

  • You wanna date me? 😂🤣

  • I have friends that are girls.. but my friend is a tomboy and she wasn't treated nicely. she(6) and I(5) were on the playground and these two bullies came over. they started throwing insults at her and I ended up getting my 5 other guy friends over to get the bullies away. my friend is still my greatest friend to this day.

  • I’m a Tomboy and a girly girl at the same time

  • I am super lonely

  • I am not a tomboy or girly girl i am in between never play dolls just skate boarding but I am okay with dressing up once in awhile

  • my friends don't get the difference of being a tomboy and a lesbian. some even say that i'm not a "girl" anymore. thanks for this. it really made me happy to think that i am worth loving and not alone.

  • I’m like 60% tomboy and 40% girly

  • Sou br

  • I am a tomboy too and I love it 😍

  • You ar dust lik me

  • One time I thought I had friends but it turned out they were not my friends .

  • Gay

    • Not really. A tomboy is STRAIGHT girl who is not femine. So stop insulting

  • You sound like my friend nnmking

  • Omg i love tomboys

  • I'm a tomboy as well and sometimes I don't really care what others think, I wear tracksuit, shorts, durag a lot of things but my mum still complains that I should be more of a girl.. I have a lot of friends and I'm pretty sure they accept me for who I am

  • My friend is a tomboy and i enjoy having her as a friend

  • U can date a bisexual guy

  • i know im a brony (if you dont know what that is its a male fan of my little pony friendship is magic.. i know its weird)

  • I know the feeling bro! I'e always been a tomboy and I used to date some guy who really appreciated that. It was rare for me to be wearing womens clothes and dresses. I do like being pretty every now and then to this present day, but as I am always outside and doing outdoorsy stuff, I like to be in my boy clothes, tie my hair back and take my make-up off :) and having guys as friends is sometimes less drama!!

  • Aw... You made me think you still havent found anyone I was happy to date u

  • I’m tomboy and I love it and it’s awsome

  • If it’s like a wedding or something you should maybe wear a dress.....

  • "male buddies"

  • I'm not like the oth-

  • I'm a tomboy too and I can relate to many aspects of this video. I was never really fond of girly clothes and girly hairstyles or make up. I always thought that it was fine, I was who I wanted to be. But recently my mum came up to me and talked to me about it. She asked me what's wrong with me, why I'm not "normal" like the other girls and if I'd rather be a boy and I was really surprised by that question. At that time I didn't know that there was a word to describe why I am the way that I am, I just knew that I was not like the others, which never bothered me before but my mum actually managed to make me feel bad about who I am. I started researching, to see, if there are other girls like me and came across the word tomboy. I read many articles and could finally relate to other people like me. I told my mum about it and she finally accepted it, well more or less. We still have discussions about what to wear to special occasions and she is still convinced that I'll be forever alone, especially if I'd have a pixie cut (which I still want to have when I'll go to university). But honestly, I don't care what anybody thinks. I am who I want to be and nobody can change that.

  • In my school we have a tomboy and its the must pupiolar

  • I used to be a tomboy but i had to chang that because people starting to think i like girls And call me Gay but the point is my mom used to put boy clothes on me when i was a baby so i starting to like that And i don't really like hanging out with the girls i didn't like what they talk about i wanted to hang out with the boys And do boy stuff And wear boy clothes but i didn't change my self completely cuz it was imposible but i don't wear boy clothes everday anymore but i still wear them they make me feel comfortable And i still love And do boy stuff And sometimes act like a boy so i change a little bit And i didn't have probleme dating but people look at me in a weird way when i wear boy clothes well i don't care

  • He is just gay

  • My name is also josephing

  • This boy William he is always playing sports an I’m hanging girls that play babys so I ask William if I can play he says yes but I keep getting hurt so I don’t play with him anymore

  • I'm a tomboy but I can sometimes go girly it's fun when guys see me fully girly cuz they say I look like a totally different person

  • OML I WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH HER

  • Ok, so I’m a girl and I’m a tomboy but... WHATS WRONG WITH BEING A TOM BOY!?!?!?!

  • I also want to be a tomboy I do care whatever they say

  • I'm a tomboy as well. I love to play video games, weld, and other stuff that girls don't traditionally do. I still like girly stuff like dresses and everything, but my usual clothes were always a t-shirt with my favorite video games on it and slightly baggy jeans and a Hard Rock Cafe hat. Through middle school and high school, both guys and girls didn't want to hang out with me. Girls called me their friend but we weren't really friends. They only said that because I was a girl. Guys came up with a stupid rule that guys can only be friends with a girl if he's dating her. The guys also thought I was weird for liking video games and they would shut me out of their conversation if I try to join in if they're talking about video games I liked. I really hoped to have some guy friends who like me for me which is being a tomboy. In college, I got those guy friends and they're pretty awesome and think it's cool that I like video games as much as they do. Unfortunately, I didn't gain a boyfriend because of being a tomboy but I'm hoping some day there will be a guy who loves me for me and will be the one for me.

  • I want to express my self so I’m here:) I used to be girl who was just normal Until I started church got plain shirts and some really nice pants that are really comfy and kinda big0w0 I started wearing the same thing and got obsessed with hoodies ❤️ I started cutting my hair currently I want to cut it shorter I’m really interested like basketball gaming ❤️ Tbh I’ve always like to hangout with boys but my friends always invited me and I did want to betray them But my mom I mean my family Started saying You should wear legging and a dress skirts and p,sun shirts and brush your hair Look at the girls they brush their hair and look at you My mom was the worst... she’s always comparing me from other girls.... Currently people even thought I was a boy! Currently this is my life my parents let me wear what I want just don’t support me...

  • Me is tomboy 2 do not feel alone

  • I have to call some bull no disrespect. Tom boys are fucking beautiful. *_I would date a tom boy if I wasnt a reclusive living in a mountain to get away from people._* why? Because tom boys are perfect.

  • I think tomboys are kinda cute, and a Hella lot funner than girly girls !

  • my nom is joseph XD XD XD

  • What would I be considered? I like and do both boy and girl stuff and even wear boy and girl stuff....

  • Tom boys for life

  • Be proud of yourself cause you’re awesome (I’ve also heard some nasty comments about my appearance too)

  • You can't really ... blame anyone for not dating a tomboy, since you are straight, and... the majority of men want a woman... not a buddy ... (opinion)

  • I am sooooo interested... WHAT THE HELL IS THIS TITLE: nobody wants me LIKE WTH IN THE END YOU DO HAVE A BOYFRIEND

  • Boys approach the girls? That's some kind of law in your country, huh? If you didn't know, we would like to be asked out once or twice too

  • Everyone say I am weird...

  • You realy understand me but my BFF îs a girl I am also tomboy