How I Discovered I Wasn't Straight

Published on May 6, 2018
I'd have hypothetical crushes on girls whenever my church would tell me I shouldn't.
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  • "So let's unpack that..." Love how she said that lmao

  • I am still so confused by what Demi , A sexual etc mean can someone explain to me please??

  • being gay is the one most important thing to work at buzzfeed. points for being a feminist and you will for sure will be hired if you hate men a little .

  • this is... kinda relatable

  • This is the most relatable queer story I’ve ever heard. Chantel, thank you for sharing your story!

  • I am so glad that I am not the only person who 1) thought that because they were attracted to men, their attraction to girls didn't have any weight, (I now have a girlfriend, and no longer think that) and 2) grew up being very Christian. While our journey is still very different, it's refreshing and reassuring to know that people had similar struggles to my own.

  • Jen *takes one to know one 😂

  • All of the people who weren't straight knew it because they have the gaydar

  • If you pause the video and go to 9:32, Chantel has the weirdest face. LOL

  • It reminds me of me, coz I'm a little bisexual and I'm bullied for being athletic and sporty and it makes me have depression and anxiety

  • i love chantelle even more now because shes open about this stuff and i think thats super beautiful

  • 1:07 Exactly same

  • i have felt this too but i know im straight and I DON'T WANT TO be gay disclaimer: not bc i was raised not to be gay just bc i rly don't want too be gay but can't you think about/perform with the same gender and not be gay just to play around not as a gay thing?

  • i'm not straight, i'm lesbian. at my school i get teased a lot but i have an amazing girlfriend so i don't care (:

  • She’s bisexual!! Why does she keep saying gay? Stuff like this is why people think bisexuals don’t exist.

  • Jen: my gaydar was telling me that me: ayeee same XD

  • now that you say that I realize the pivotal moment in realizing I wasn't straight and that I was no longer in denial was about a girl that both me and my best friend (guy) had a crush on....she's the reason I realized I was bisexual and both of us remember vividly being on the phone and where we were when I came out to him :P

  • I identify as demi/bi/asexual too omg ;v; I still havent come out to my family and it's been 7 years ;-; I'm still scared.

  • (Btw I’ve talked to some aces and Demis and they still have crushes and that doesn’t makes you any less valid but everyone’s experience is different along with where they are on the spectrum💗🏳️‍🌈💗)

  • This makes Chantel even more boring

  • Growing up Christian and being on the ace spectrum and finding out I like girls later on in life...I relate to this sooooo much. I feel visible. Thank You!!!!!!

  • Yea you're not straight . But you're so pretty ❤❤

  • We all have a little gay in us.

  • I have always know that im pan, at 19 i discovered that i was asexual, with an panromatic orientation. Now, at 22 i know that i like girls as equally as boys. And is hard

  • What's her name?

  • Jen's got that gaydar

  • i thought chantel was srTAIGHT

  • I'm in a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend and we love each other a lot! But I've been wondering what if I'm not straight? Lol I mean, aren't all women a little gay?

  • Only the gay ppl suspected it 😂

  • I've been watching videos like this for so long that I'm questioning my sexuality.

  • I feel like every person on buzzfeed thinks their gay. Kind of annoying, they're sorta shoving it in our faces.

  • might seem weird but i low key have shipped jen and chantel for a while...

  • I've always wondered if I was somewhat asexual because I still had like... feelings... but I didn't think I'd ever need to act on those feelings in a relationship, but then I was in a relationship and I did act on them...?? [does that make sense?] and after THOROUGH review, apparently I am on the Demisexual side of the spectrum, along with being Bi! Thank you for sharing this video Chantel, always learning new things :)

  • Wait so does she date boys. I’m not familiar with different types of sexualities x

  • This is so relatable.

  • 'I hope he's gay' Cat mom quote of the year

  • My whole family supports gay people so my mom has pride flags all over her office 🏳️‍🌈

  • I watched this video before I figured out my own sexuality and I didnt realize how much I related to this, but how watching it again after figuring that out, I am amazed how much I do relate. I was raised super Christian and I identify as biromantic demisexual/ demi-bi, or also just generally queer also. Thank you so much for sharing this. It really may have planted the seed I needed to figure out that I am demi-bi myself

  • You do you 😀

  • I know that im attracted to guys but I have thought about kissing girls before... But I've never had a crush on a girl. I'm 11 and idk if that's old enough to be certain. Help? 😊

  • The conclusion kids... Sexuality is fluid nd u never know what your taste changes into.. Also I am super bi! Nd haven't kissed a girl yet.

  • Jens gaydar was on point

  • Jen and chantel would be such a cute couple

  • ja pierdole

  • Okay so straight people don’t think about making out or holding hands or hugging/cuddling with girls?

  • 7:40 and 7:46 they look high

  • i didnt know shantel was bi or querr or what ever!!!

  • I'm bisexual and I found out when I kissed my best friend

  • Omg I had no idea you rock🏳️‍🌈

  • My guess is pansexual

  • Oh my gods! Thank You! I've had to explain Demisexuality and grey asexuality to so many people and it's really nice to hear someone else speak on it. On top of that I'm bisexual and polyamorous so it has truly been a long ride to get here. I'm glad you're figuring it out :)(I shouted "My Girl!!!" like three times cuz I've nevr had a demi convo with someone who I didn't teach demi to and what a grace is)

  • Oh I can so relate to you! Shoutout to all you bi and demi beauties!

  • This whole video relates to me, all my friends are part of the lgbtq+ community and their coming out and stories from home made me wonder am I bi or pan? This video made me question that and go the internet again.

  • Aren’t we all a lil gay 🏳️‍🌈

  • *_you’re lying if you say you’re not gay for at least one of the ladylike women_*

  • God, thank you so much for this video... I have been struggling to label myself as bi since my feelings for girls didn't surface until I was a bit older. I didn't have that childhood curiosity so much, or a best friends crush like so many others, so thank you for making me feel valid in my sexuality.

  • When this video first came out I refused to watch it bcus I didnt want to admit how gay I am🤣🤣

  • I actually saw an ad about a movie that was about someone being part of the lgbtq+ community.

  • “Making gay stuff, because I a little gay” 😂🏳️‍🌈

  • Yeah im never coming out of the closet

  • She has a mouth like Julia from the US-tv channel jules and saud

  • I'm Asexual 🙂

  • Omg girl I feel you!! I am going through the same thing you were as a teen but my lightbulb girl was Jen from Ladylike and I am only 14. I'm so glad you helped me. Love ya!!

  • Okay so like idk if it’s a phase or something but like I’ve noticed around “manlier looking girls” I get like nervous around them and are attracted to them. I’m curious as if it’s my brain being tricked thinking of a guy or if I am actually attracted to girls. Helppop

  • How did ur family take it? That’s kinda what I’m worried about

  • Dang, I just searched what Demi sexual is...

  • I clocked this in the first ladylike video. All the gay girls in the comments are loosing their minds. We’re all very proud of you for coming to this and we all know it’s so hard to come out especially when you’re being watched by thousands and thousands of people. You go queen. Keep glowing

  • #gaydar


  • I honestly don't think that there are any females that aren't just a smidge gay. And I'm not sure what I would identify as because I typically find males attractive, however I am attracted to some females and would be open to a relationship with them. I think that it might be that I find the male body attractive, but I like the female "personality" (idk how to explain it, but it's like most girls understand me more and just typically aren't douches). Idk. Sexuality is confusing.

  • wow your experience is me me me me i am so thankful for this video

  • I was trying to come out. I ran through the halls screaming I’m gay

  • I realized I way Bi when I was 15


  • I am clearly not straight, at all.

  • Okay but is anyone really a 100% straight in the first place?

  • I wanted Jen and chantel to date before I knew Chantel wasn’t straight! Let the destiny begin lol

  • For me, I once was like women are who I'm attracted to, but I feel like it's changed for me, I mean I find men more attractive than I ever thought I would, feel like I've just gone off women and started liking men more, I never thought I'd message something like this but oh well 😂🤧

    • Sorry my English isnt Best, like second language for me

  • Ive used Trevor. Its wonderful

  • Don’t come at me but I feel like we shouldn’t have any labels for sexuality. There shouldn’t be “straight” or “gay”. It should just be you love who you love no matter who they are. People shouldn’t have to struggle with figuring out what their label is when labels are exactly what everyone says not to put on people, including yourself.

  • I'm ace, and ninety percent sure I'm aro.

  • I relate to this so much!!! I feel so connected that someone has such has a similar story to mine. Thanks you so much

  • Wait wait wait shes not straight

  • “I’m gay a little.” MOOOOOOOOOD 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • i liked this video for jen's reaction alone lmaooo

  • I’ve ALWAYS been very confused with my sexuality since I think it has changed a bit over time tbh, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more attracted to guys I think, although when I was younger I definitely was more into girls even though I didn’t realize it. Like, damn I was REALLY attracted to girls, and it didn’t register that it was sexual attraction until like seventh grade. As for crushes, I really don’t know how many I’ve had, but I know when I was younger I had crushes on both girls and guys I think. Sometimes I wonder now if I’m actually straight now at least, since I’m less attracted to girls now and more nervous around guys, but yet again I’m still super confused hshdgsjdj


  • OMG your story is so the same as mine except for the asexuality part. I feel you so hard on the labels thing and the growing up Christian thing. xx

  • all I could think was awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

  • You just described my life exactly lol

  • I kinda have a hunch you're gay the first time i saw you on youtube 😉

  • There are only 3 genders :- Male , Female and Transgender.

  • Maybe your Pansexual

  • So your pansexual?

  • 9:08 ughhh SHES SO PRETTY! :D:D:D

  • How do people even tell?? :P

  • Thank you so much! You've just completely sorted out what my sexuality is after months of it stressing me out thank you so much

  • Yay fellow not straight on the Ace spectrum !

  • She’s “straightn’t”